sharing-business-ideas.com | John Marik | December 2017
Tony Robbins I actually didn’t know you, but I didn’t like you.
How often do you make up your mind about someone or something without actually really knowing the person or the actual situation? I myself had dismissed Tony Robbins purely through a profile I cobbled together from small snippets of online entries, cameos in movies and just that he’s from the good ol’ US of A. Being from the USA must make him loud, over-confident, brash and just after your money right – the money whisperer and capitalist extraordinaire?
I actually am ashamed of myself that I have formed this profile and opinion without having done any research, and that I stereotyped a whole country.
Now take yourself back to a situation in your workplace when a new person was about to start. Did people around you start forming opinions without actually knowing the person?
“I’ve heard from John Doe that the new person was an under-performer in their last role”
“I’ve heard bad things in the way they deal with people”
“That new person is fantastic and I’ve heard nothing but good things”
…and it goes on.
What does this do to your opinion of the new person starting? You haven’t met them, yet already you are forming an opinion around what others have fed you.
What you say about others is actually a reflection of who you are as opposed to who they are.
Also keep in mind that studies have shown that we humans ruminate over negative comments more than positive ones and thus tend to remember the negative ones. Therefore that little bit of mud sticks.
I love Plato quotes and this summarises the lesson I have learnt very well:
An empty vessel makes the loudest sound, so they that have the least wit are the greatest babblers.”
“Any man may easily do harm, but not every man can do good to another.”
“Wise men talk because they have something to say; Fools, because they have to say something.”
So back to Tony Robbins and why I changed my mind? I actually just gave him a chance and for the first time read one of his books. I was walking through K-mart with my kids and stumbled upon the following book:
“Unshakeable: Your Guide to Financial Freedom; Creating Peace of Mind in a World of Volatility” By Tony Robbins with Peter Mallouk (I note that if you click-through the book title link it takes you to book depository and I receive a commission if the book is purchased – see disclosure) and as I operate from a position of trust if you want this book cheaper in Australia, go to K-mart and pick one up for AUD$12.
“By studying the right role models, you could learn in a week what might otherwise take you a decade“. Tony Robbins
Tony delves into clear and concise insights from the best of finance. Both financial planning novices to the hardened pro just needing a bit of a refresher in a few concepts will get a lot out of this book. The hardened pros may not like Tony’s opinion of the financial planning industry, however I feel in Australia we are better protected from unscrupulous “financial consultants” and I have many of a friend in the industry that operates with absolute integrity.
The section on the psychology of investing and how to be a better person is a must read. I have always believed in a balanced viewpoint to allow yourself to feel the good and bad emotions in life, however the section focusing on positive psychology was very compelling and I have incorporated being thankful and grateful for what I have in my life as a daily habit.
Tony Robbins has turned me around and I will be looking for more of his books. And as to my lesson; people will always talk about others, but how you interpret that talk is then a reflection of the person you are. This will define you as a #leader and as a good person.
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